Love After Loss — A Journey of Healing and Hope: Grief is not a straight line. It ebbs, flows, and reshapes our world in ways we never anticipated. For those who have lost a partner, the idea of ever loving again can feel impossible, even disloyal. But in the latest episode of Simon’s Listening, relationship coach and grief expert Michelle Hoffman helps us understand that healing is not about forgetting. It’s about making space for what’s next.
Michelle Hoffman, a three-time bestselling author and internationally recognised voice in the world of love and transformation, shares her own story of navigating widowhood and rediscovering love. Her insights are rooted not just in expertise, but lived experience — making this episode one of the most raw and relatable yet.
Honouring Love While Opening to New Connection
“When someone you love dies, the relationship doesn’t end,” Michelle explains. “It changes form. That love stays with you.” For many grieving partners, the emotional conflict of wanting to date again while still deeply mourning their lost love can feel overwhelming. Michelle encourages us to see grief and new love not as opposites, but as companions.
Grief never truly disappears, but it can coexist with joy, hope, and even romance. Honouring your past means giving yourself permission to love again — not in the shadow of what was, but in the light of who you are becoming.
Rebuilding Self-Trust Is the First Step
Before stepping into a new relationship, Michelle emphasises the importance of reconnecting with yourself. “You have to remember who you are outside the relationship. What do you need now? What brings you joy?”
Rebuilding self-trust after loss is not always easy. There can be guilt, confusion, and fear. But by taking small, intentional steps toward your own wellbeing — therapy, journaling, meditation, support groups — you begin to rebuild the internal compass that will guide you into your next chapter.
The Emotional Stages of Dating After Bereavement
Dating after loss is unlike any other kind of dating. It comes with new emotional terrain: grief triggers, comparisons, fears of abandonment, and the pressure to “move on.” Michelle breaks this down with compassion and clarity:
- Initial curiosity: a glimmer of interest in connection again
- Tentative steps: possibly feeling overwhelmed by guilt or doubt
- Rebound risk: seeking to replace rather than rebuild
- Emergent clarity: learning your emotional needs today, not yesterday
- Authentic connection: building something new without erasing the old
Each stage requires patience, self-kindness, and space.
What Authentic Love Looks Like in the Next Chapter
Authentic love after loss doesn’t mean replicating what was. Instead, it means embracing what is true now: your values, your hopes, your new emotional boundaries. Michelle speaks to the importance of finding a partner who respects your grief and your growth.
“You’re not starting over. You’re starting from experience,” she says.
Authentic love honours the past while holding space for the present. It allows grief to come and go without shame. It brings laughter without guilt. It gives you room to evolve.
Why This Conversation Matters – Love After Loss — A Journey of Healing and Hope
At Hope Therapy & Counselling Services, we work with many individuals processing grief, adjusting to life after loss, and navigating the complexities of dating again. Michelle’s conversation is a moving reminder that therapy isn’t just for the early days of grief. It can support you as you make courageous decisions about your future.
Whether you’re grieving a spouse, cautiously entering new relationships, or helping someone through this journey, this episode is a powerful listen.
Love After Loss — A Journey of Healing and Hope
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- Bereavement counselling
- Relationship counselling
- CBT, EMDR, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, and coaching
We offer online and face-to-face sessions. All therapists are accredited, experienced, and matched to your individual needs.
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