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Why do people get Separation Anxiety?
Separation Anxiety is tied into the biological reactions that go back to prehistoric times when we hunted and were hunted by wild animals. We had to react in a moment to the threat or perceived threat in front of us. Did we stop and fight for our lunch or run in order to protect ourselves? This is the so-called fight or flight mechanism, that sits within us all and has deep-rooted biological reactions at its core. But for those of us that don’t fear for our lives, we can still project this threat onto other situations that we find ourselves in, resulting in the innate anxiety reaction. For example in the case of a phobia, after a road traffic accident, we may fear driving in a car again both as a passenger or as the driver.
Understanding Separation Anxiety
Separation anxiety is a condition often associated with children, but it can affect individuals of all ages. It involves excessive fear or anxiety about being separated from a significant person, place, or even object. At Hope Therapy & Counselling Services, we understand the profound impact separation anxiety can have on an individual’s life and are committed to providing the support and treatment necessary to manage and overcome it.
What is Separation Anxiety?
Separation anxiety is characterised by an intense fear of being apart from a person to whom the individual is deeply attached. This fear can lead to significant distress and can interfere with daily activities and relationships. While it is common in children, adults can also experience separation anxiety, often in the context of their relationships or when facing significant life changes.
Symptoms of Separation Anxiety
The symptoms of separation anxiety can manifest in various ways, affecting both emotional and physical wellbeing. Common symptoms include:
- Excessive worry about losing the attachment figure or about harm coming to them
- Reluctance or refusal to go out, attend school, work, or social events due to fear of separation
- Physical complaints such as headaches, stomach aches, or nausea when separation is anticipated
- Nightmares about separation
- Persistent, excessive worry about being alone
- Repeatedly checking on the whereabouts and safety of the attachment figure.
These symptoms can be overwhelming and can interfere with the individual’s ability to function normally in their daily life.
Causes of Separation Anxiety
The causes of separation anxiety are multifaceted and can include genetic, environmental, and psychological factors. Traumatic events, significant life changes, or disruptions in attachment during early development can contribute to the development of separation anxiety. Additionally, individuals with a family history of anxiety disorders may be more susceptible to experiencing separation anxiety.
Impact on Daily Life
Living with separation anxiety can be challenging and can significantly impact an individual’s quality of life. It can lead to avoidance behaviours, difficulties in relationships, and problems at school or work. The constant fear of separation can prevent individuals from engaging in normal activities and can lead to social isolation. However, with the right support and treatment, individuals can learn to manage their anxiety and lead more fulfilling lives.
Treatment and Support
At Hope Therapy & Counselling Services, we offer a range of therapeutic approaches to help individuals overcome separation anxiety. Our treatments are personalised to meet the specific needs of each client and may include:
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): This evidence-based approach helps clients identify and change the thought patterns and behaviours that contribute to their anxiety. CBT is effective in reducing the symptoms of separation anxiety by teaching coping strategies and promoting resilience.
- Exposure Therapy: This technique involves gradually and safely exposing clients to the situations they fear, helping them build tolerance and reduce their anxiety over time.
- Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: These practices can help individuals manage their anxiety symptoms by promoting relaxation and present-moment awareness.
- Counselling and Psychotherapy: Our experienced therapists provide a supportive and non-judgmental environment for clients to explore their fears and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Taking the First Step
Seeking help for separation anxiety is a crucial step towards recovery. At Hope Therapy & Counselling Services, we strive to make this process as comfortable and supportive as possible. Clients can self-refer and choose between face-to-face or online sessions to fit their needs and preferences.
If you or someone you know is struggling with separation anxiety, contact us today to learn more about our services and how we can support you on your journey to managing anxiety. Together, we can work towards a future where separation no longer dictates your life, allowing you to build stronger, healthier relationships and enjoy greater peace of mind.

We support you:
- From home via zoom or skype.
- In an effective way.
- Using qualified counsellors, with Anxiety experience.
- Either one to one or in a group setting.
- Offering a wide range of support from Counselling, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Mindfulness.
What can you expect?
- We will support you to better understand your triggers.
- To offer psychological and emotional support, to help manage underlying issues relating to your Anxiety.
- Offer understanding, interventions, guidance and support.
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