When Getting Older Feels Different Than You Expected
Ageing is often presented as something to embrace, but the reality can be more complicated. Many women find that getting older brings unexpected feelings alongside the physical changes.
You may feel that your body no longer works as it used to, that your role in relationships or at work is shifting, or that the future looks different from what you imagined. These changes can bring pride and perspective, but they can also stir up sadness, frustration or uncertainty.
Why the Emotional Side of Ageing Matters
Ageing affects more than appearance. It can touch every part of your identity. For some women, it comes alongside menopause, health problems, changes in family life, or career transitions.
Common experiences include:
- Feeling less visible or valued at work or socially
- Worries about health, independence, or the future
- Grief for opportunities or stages of life that have passed
- Changes in sexual confidence or intimacy
- A shift in sense of purpose or direction
In the UK, women are more likely to report anxiety or depression during major life changes such as midlife, menopause, or retirement (ONS, 2023).
How Counselling Can Support You
Counselling offers a space where you can talk honestly about what ageing means for you. There is no expectation to stay positive or pretend you are fine if you are not.
We can help you:
- Explore the emotions that ageing is bringing up
- Rebuild self-esteem if it has been affected
- Adjust to changes in relationships, work, or family roles
- Find clarity on what you want in the years ahead
FAQs – Emotional Impacts of Ageing
Q: Is it normal to feel low about getting older?
Yes. Ageing can trigger a range of emotional responses, and it is common to feel unsettled.
Q: Can counselling help with menopause-related emotions?
Yes. Menopause is often part of this stage of life and we can explore its impact in your sessions.
Q: Will counselling tell me to simply accept ageing?
No. Our focus is on helping you understand your feelings and develop coping strategies that work for you.
Q: Am I too old to make changes?
No. Many women find this stage of life can be a time for meaningful change and new opportunities.