Anger seldom choses its victims

  • Do you have trouble controlling your anger?
  • Are you worried about your anger and what it is doing to your mental health?
  • Do you struggle to compromise or arrive easily at mutual agreements without getting angry?
  • Do you have problems expressing emotions in a calm and healthy way?
  • Do you ignore others and refuse to speak to them?
  • Have your friends or family noticed your anger is getting worse?
  • Are you worried your anger may destroy your relationship?
  • Have you thought about seeking professional help, but don’t know where to go?

If any of these questions resonate with you and your situation at the moment, then get in touch now.

We at Hope Therapy offer one to one and group therapy for anger management.

Anger is a normal reaction and emotion. It can be very helpful as it motivates us to do something necessary, such as sticking up for ourselves or to right an injustice. However, it can also lead us into problems. Anger can be a result of thinking that we have been unfairly treated or disrespected, or that we or others have broken or fallen short of our rules, expectations in ways that we will not stand for.

It is helpful to understand what is driving our anger, which can often be related to events in our past. Current situations we find ourselves in can FEEL the same, so it triggers our anger response. Thinking this way leads us to feel angry, which stimulates the body’s adrenaline response which is our body’s way of helping us to cope with either fighting or running away (‘fight or flight’ response). We can respond to those thoughts and feelings, by acting, or feeling an urge to act, in threatening or aggressive ways.

My observations in the therapy room are backed up by research and reports from the British Association of Anger Management.

The statistics are shocking:

  • More than 10% of us say they have trouble controlling their temper.
  • More than 1 in 4 say they are worried about how angry they feel.
  • 45% of us regularly lose our temper at work.
  • 65% of Britons working in an office have had office rage.
  • 1 in 5 people say they have ended a relationship or friendship with someone because of how they behaved when they were angry.
  • 27% of nurses have been attacked at work as a result of angry and violent patients.
  • 33% of Britons are not on speaking terms with their neighbours and 1 in 20 of us have had a fight with the person living next door.
  • More than 80% of drivers say they have been involved in road rage incidents.
  • 50% of us have reacted to computer problems by hitting our PC, hurling parts of it around, screaming or abusing our colleagues.
  • UK airlines reported 1,486 significant or serious acts of air rage I a year

I could go on …. However, I think you probably get the picture?

We quite often have a lot to lose when we lose our temper

What makes Anger a very dangerous emotion however is that it seriously impairs our judgment? So, in the ‘heat of the moment ‘we are absolutely convinced we are right. We can later find out we are completely wrong. But we can’t back down, now can we?

The impact on others is that it makes them feel uneasy and maybe frightened of us. It certainly does not lead to comfortable and relaxing times between people. So, the impact on relationships can be unhealthy and, in some cases, catastrophic.

There are many reasons that may cause us to have an angry outburst, including:

  • Stress
  • Financial issues
  • Abuse
  • Poor social or family situations
  • Overwhelming requirements on your time and energy
  • Alcoholism
  • Anger disorders
  • Anger Issues

Whatever yours is, if you feel you need help then please feel free to read on and learn more about what’s on offer.

Our one to one therapy and anger management programmes can help you to respond in a different way.

Our anger management programme runs for 6 weeks and is a mixture of mindfulness-based awareness training and a variety of educational and training exercises and practices.

It can help you:


  • This covers: anger and irritability and what they are.
  • What makes me angry?
  • Why am I not angry all of the time?
  • Constructing a system to explain my irritability and anger.
  • Appraisals and judgments.
  • Why isn’t everyone irritated and angry by the same things as me? My beliefs.
  • What is the purpose of getting angry? What does it give me?
  • Hostility aggression and violence if they are present.


  • Getting a handle on your problems.
  • Why do I get angry?
  • Working on my thinking.
  • Give myself some good advice.
  • Why do I get angry and my beliefs: identifying negative beliefs and challenging them immediately?
  • Anger and shame.
  • Dwelling brooding and ruminating: why winding myself up is dangerous.
  • Mindfulness based awareness training.
  • Strengthening the REAL you
  • Inhibitions and your inhibitions
  • What’s happening in my brain when I get angry?


  • Focusing on me
  • Troubleshooting

The 6-week course is heavily influenced with both mindfulness and practical ways of coping with your anger.

Do get in touch with Hope Therapy to find out more or book a space.



Mobile: 07379 538411


Helen is a qualified, highly competent and very sought-after Counsellor, who has gained experience in various professional settings alongside having her own private practice.

She integrates CBT and Psychodynamic approaches into her client-centred work, as appropriate to the client and their presenting issue. She has significant experience of working with adults, young adults, young people and children.

To book a session with Helen, contact us quoting Helen’s name:


Mobile: 07379 538411

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