Q1: What is couples counselling?
- A: Couples counselling is a type of therapy that helps partners improve their relationship by addressing issues such as communication problems, conflicts, and emotional difficulties. It involves both partners working together with a therapist to explore their relationship and find ways to improve it.
Q2: How do we know if we need couples counselling?
- A: If you and your partner are experiencing ongoing conflicts, communication problems, or emotional distance, couples counselling can help. It’s also beneficial if you’re facing significant life changes or want to strengthen your relationship.
Q3: What happens in the first session?
- A: In the first session, the therapist will typically gather information about your relationship history, current issues, and goals for counselling. This is also a time for you and your partner to ask questions and get comfortable with the therapeutic process.
Q4: How long does each session last?
- A: Couples counselling sessions typically last between 50 to 60 minutes. Some therapists may offer longer sessions depending on the needs of the couple.
Q5: How often will we need to attend sessions?
- A: The frequency of sessions depends on the specific needs and goals of the couple. Initially, weekly sessions are common, but this can be adjusted over time as progress is made.
Q6: Will we always have joint sessions, or are individual sessions also involved?
- A: While most sessions are conducted with both partners present, individual sessions may be recommended if the therapist believes it will be beneficial for the overall progress of the couple.
Q7: What kinds of issues can be addressed in couples counselling?
- A: Couples counselling can address a wide range of issues, including communication problems, trust issues, infidelity, intimacy issues, parenting conflicts, financial stress, and more.
Q8: What if my partner is reluctant to attend counselling?
- A: It’s common for one partner to be more hesitant. It may help to discuss the benefits of counselling and how it can improve your relationship. Sometimes, attending a few initial sessions can help alleviate concerns.
Q9: How do we know if couples counselling is working?
- A: Progress in couples counselling can be seen through improved communication, reduced conflict, and a stronger emotional connection. Your therapist will help you track progress and make adjustments as needed.
Q10: Is everything we discuss in counselling confidential?
- A: Yes, confidentiality is a core principle in counselling. Everything discussed in sessions is kept private, with exceptions related to safety and legal obligations (such as harm to self or others).
Q11: What approaches do couples counsellors use?
- A: Therapists use various approaches, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and more. Your therapist will explain their approach and how it can help your relationship.
Q12: How long does couples counselling typically last?
- A: The duration of couples counselling varies depending on the issues at hand and the goals of the couple. Some couples may find resolution in a few sessions, while others may continue therapy for several months.
Q13: Can couples counselling help if we’re considering separation or divorce?
- A: Yes, couples counselling can help partners explore their feelings about separation or divorce and make informed decisions. It can also assist in finding a peaceful and respectful way to navigate these transitions if they decide to part ways.
Q14: What should we do to prepare for our first couples counselling session?
- A: To prepare, think about the issues you want to address, your goals for counselling, and any questions you have for the therapist. It may also help to discuss these points with your partner beforehand.
Q15: How can we make the most out of our couples counselling sessions?
- A: Be open and honest during sessions, actively participate in the discussions, and apply the techniques and strategies provided by your therapist in your daily life. Commitment and effort from both partners are key to making positive changes.
